82-year old Helena is seated in front of her hut busking in the luscious nine-o’clock sun when I arrive. After exchanging morning gestures with me, she draws my attention to something she considers “a lost truth”.
“My grandson,” she says, “when you marry, don’t flirt with harlots, but stick to your wife and teach her how to love you.”
She says she knows why men look out of their marriages. “It’s been happening since our time, maybe the pesticide has changed, but the pest remains the same.
“Men like ‘impression’. They often think or say ‘my wife is dirty, careless, boring and tasteless’ when instead they mean ‘she doesn’t impress me’. And this impress-me thing is simple.”
She says during their days, they used solid perfumes to impress. “We placed the perfume stones underneath clothes in boxes; they would last for a month. When he (the man) felt the sweet scent on his clothes and also got approval from his colleagues, i tell you, even if you were rotting old, he’d not leave you!”
According to her, there are two things that make a man: the desire to stand out of the clatter and the longing to explore new things, whatever and wherever they are.
“These are what all women who want to protect their men from being “snatched” by other women should know,” says the widow and mother of seven.
Do you agree with Helena?